I Need To Scream

OMG where do i start, hmm lets see for the past 8 months we have had an exchange student living with us. Great right?? Well its supposed to be. Everything you ever hear from commercials, friends, the student reps, are how absolutely great having an exchange student from a foreign country can be. You get visions in your mind of this cute little girl or boy who comes and stays with your family and blends right in. You see them having family gatherings with you,going to concerts, and even actually liking spending time with you. What you dont see is all the inbetween and the dirty little secrets that know one wants you to know about. What dirty secrets you ask? How about the neediness its like having a brand new baby at home that relies on you for their every constant need, and i dont mean where is the glasses kept, or what time is it?? I mean the constant i need to go here and i need to go there, or i know we just passed the store but all of a sudden i need to go back and spend an hour doing nothing but walking around embarrassing myself. Or one of my personal favorites them thinking that you do nothing but sit around and stare at the ceilings all day. School gets out at 3:00 so you would obviously think that if they needed a ride after school they would let you know a few hours in advance so that you can plan accordingly. NOPE been here 8 months and i can count the number of times i have actually been fore warned about this on one hand. No wait one finger (if that). We get told "can you pick me up in 5 mins" about 5 minutes before school actually ends. Can you see frustrating i dont know how many times i have been on the opposite side of town in the store and had to drop what i was doing to go pick her up, and then she acts like its no big deal because we were put on this planet for the soul purpose of being at her every beck and call. I hate ok so hate is a strong word i very very very dislike people that are rude, and have no respect for anyone, and let me just say she's both. Im at the point now where i can be sooo relaxed throughout the entire day and 2:50pm hits and the anxiety hits. ohh ohh and did i mention that another one of her foreign friends has moved in with us??? Yup 2 their is 2 of them, and now our first exchange student is acting like well no different than before but that the entire world revolves around her. Her and the little foreign girl #2 talks to my hubby when they want to do something like idk go to a party stay out till 3am. They only talk to me when they want a ride somewhere. So that brings me to another great point. get ready for lots of fights with hubby/wifey especially if you have differing opinions on child raising or they want to play you against each other. My husband lets this go on because he sees nothing wrong with anything they do. I honestly think they could go out and kill someone and have proof and he would say oooo welll they didnt mean to or my favorite their guilty until proven innocent. UHHHHHHHHHHHHHH im so pissed.

Daddy's A Drunk

Ok so where to start. My husbands mom was a whore both during her teenage years and now (although thats another post altogether) But the point is he never could get his mom to tell him who his dad was,where he lived who it maybe or anything that would even possibly give him a clue of who helped to create him. Whether it be through some form of love back in 1978 or just a quick fling. When he graduated he told his mom the only thing he wanted was for his dad to be invited to graduation not to get my hubby anything, he didnt want money gifts, or to call him dad he simply wanted for the man who helped create him to see that even though he wasnt around for first steps, first bicycle wrecks and first dates that he did make it without him.His mom of course wouldnt tell him anything and and it got dropped what else could he do? Fast forward to the Summer of 2008 after Mike had gotten released from the Army after we met, fell and love and got married and to when our little boy Will was born. When our little boy was born I felt it was only right and fair to our kids to know where they came from and what diseases if any ran through their blood stream, after all how do you go to the doctor and answer questions regarding your dads side of the family if you only know half of the story. So because of this we started looking at a few different men who Mike had been told by various people throughout the years was a very good possibility of him being his father. None of them ended up being the right man for one reason or another. In the spring of 2012 a man by the name of Rick Roberts showed up on Facebook and asked mike to be friends. I asked Michael who he was as soon as it showed "became friends with" he said it was his aunts ex husband (his moms sister) ok so no harm no foul or so I thought. As i got to looking at some pictures on Rick's profile i started to put pieces together and notice similarities between my husband and this "uncle" Now if your like me your probably wondering how does an uncle with no blood running the same color as my husbands look anything like him?? I started asking Mike questions about it and he could remember various scenes from when he was very small with Rick carrying him around on his shoulders, smoking cigarettes together when mike was around 2 and one such occasion that his mom swears up and down she doesnt remember where him and his mom went to pick rick up at the airport and his mom asking mike "are you ready to go pick your daddy up"? Mike finally got the courage to message Rick on facebook one afternoon and ask him if he knew who his dad might be, at first Rick flat out said NO but about a week later he had a change of heart and asked Mike to come visit him at his house so they could sit down and have a man to man talk that he was tired of waiting on Brenda to tell mike so he was going to. Rick told Mike that he was told by Brenda when she first discovered she was pregnant that it was Ricks. Rick says he wanted to do the right thing and marry her but she wouldn't have anything to do with the idea. Soon after she started saying she didnt know who the babys dad actually was. Rick of course stuck around until Mike was a few years old and Brenda's family run him off because they didnt want him to have anything to do with Mike. Of course he ended up marrying Brenda's sister whether this was done intentionally so he could stay around Mike no one knows but they ended up having two kids together Brandy their daughter and Chris their son. After a few years they got divorced and went their separate ways.  The entire time this conversation was going on Mike said Rick was drinking and crying. He said he wasnt looking for mike to call him dad, or him call mike son but he would like them to have a relationship. Understandable?? I would think so.  In early fall 2012 a DNA test was completed that come back showing that Rick was infact Mike's father after 34 years and countless fights with Brenda; Mike was finally able to say with 100% certainty who his dad was. Christmas eve morning was spent with Rick and his wife Darla getting to know our kids  everything seemed to be going in the right direction. Until the real Rick soon started peaking around the corner. He got to where he was calling Mike at all hours of the night drunk of course and rambling on about how Mike and his mom dont get along and he doesnt wanna be the reason for it, and how he loves his grandkids and hopes mike will never try to take them from him and darla. Of course this started getting annoying after about the first 5 calls or so. But now lets fast forward to June 2013 mike forgot to call and tell Rick happy fathers day and it started WWII yup he called griping about how bad it hurt his feelings that Mike didnt bother to call and tell him happy fathers day. Wooptie doo i mean come on didnt the man just say he didn't want to be called dad?? Isn't fathers day reserved for those that call them selves dads?? So Mike apologized and we thought that was over and in the past. This past Christmas mike tried on several different occassions to call and text Rick only to get his voicemail. We thought this was weird but figured he was busy. Last night he called Mike out of the blue drunk again big surprise right?? and again he was griping and referring back to Mike not calling him on Fathers day, Mike tried to tell him that was in the past and asked why he was bringing it back up. But all he could do was bring up the fact that Mike had forgotten his birthday which was the 23rd of December and neither one of us remembered it. Mike tried to tell him that he has a T.B.I (Traumatic Brain Injury) from Iraq and he doesnt remember stuff without me usually telling him thats why he goes by facebook events to find out about birthdays and such. Darla got told happy birthday by mike because of this feature. Anyways because his birthday was on the 23rd and mike didnt tell him this is why he would not answer the phone, text or even acknowledge the fact that mike had tried to get in contact with him. He was pouting apparently. He let mike know that it hurt his feelings that he didnt tell him, and that we kept the kids from having Christmas with them because mike didnt tell him happy birthday and happy fathers day. Mike told him we did not keep the kids from them on any account them not seeing the kids was their own faults. I cant believe a man who believed